4 Ways to Move Gracefully Through Change
How do you embrace change? Personally, I'm drawn to it sort of in the same way that Aurora was drawn to the glowing needle. It looks pretty and intriguing, but when push comes to shove, I'd rather just sleep (beautifully) through it all.
Alas, change is a part of life. Sometimes exciting, sometimes heartbreaking, almost always daunting. But you are a resilient. And your next step, however scary, is important. I've found a few things to be true during my current journey through transition and while I haven't necessarily moved through it gracefully, I've found grace for my missteps along the way.
Here are four tips based on my personal experience to help you navigate the space between A and B.
Find a constant.
Change and chaos often go hand-in-hand. "Routine" is a foreign term as the world spins like a tornado around you. Okay, maybe that's a bit dramatic, but depending on what sort of change you are facing, there are times when absolutely nothing about your life is recognizable. The key is to avoid getting swept up with the tornado. Find the thing that keeps you grounded and do that thing every day. For me, it's a simple as making a cup of coffee, reading, and praying in the morning. It's an easy reminder that while everything around me is shifting, I'm still me.
Eat well and exercise.
Have you noticed how much food and drink is involved when there is a major life change? Quit your job? Let's get drinks! Dumped your boyfriend? Let's order pizza! Moving? Let's eat tacos for every meal! Indulge every once in awhile, yes, but don't let it be your downfall. You may find yourself in a situation where you suddenly have more time on your hands. Use it to your advantage and be good to yourself. Fit in a run or yoga and take good care while you do. Change can put a lot of stress on your body and create a busy mind. Nothing clears the cobwebs like endorphins.
Be kind to yourself.
Change is not a bad thing, it's just a hard thing. When we get to the other side we can see growth, lessons learned, victories, even. But the most dangerous temptation that comes with change is worry. It's easy to get lost in this black hole that leads to self-doubt and fear. But listen to me: you are exactly where you need to be. You can and you will get through this. Talk to yourself the way you'd talk to your best friend or your daughter. Give yourself permission to mess up, then get back up and get on with it, you beautiful and courageous person.
Trust your foundation.
Remember your solid ground and stand firmly on it. Your identity is not your job, it's not your title, your location, who you know, where you've been, or what you've done. Perhaps part of your change is actually coming to the realization that you're more than what happens to you. Circumstances don't make you who you are, rather the way you respond to those circumstance. It's from that place of trust, kindness, strength, where you find your foundation: the thing that doesn't change, no matter what happens around you. For me, it's faith. I return to it daily and it's there where I remember who I am: capable, worthy, at peace. This is my very real constant.
A final word for the weary—don't forget that you will get there. Every day is a step closer to where you're going. Don't despise this time because it's teaching you, stretching you, and ultimately you will be better for it.
Here's to new horizons and our best days ahead.