Parenthood Vol. 1: You are Going to be Fine

Santa Monica Park

There's this strange thing that happens when you become a parent where you think thoughts like, "After this passes, everything will go back to normal." Or, "We're going to master this (fill in the blank), and then life will be a lot easier." Normal. Easy. Two words no one in the history of mankind has ever used in reference to parenthood. There is no normal, there is only anticipating the next thing. There is no easy. There is only a bottle of whiskey stashed in the cabinet for such a time as this. (AKA, last night.)

Anyway, I thought it'd be fun to occasionally pop in and share how it's going for us as parents to the most brilliant and adorable child on earth. Because at the end of the day, we'd 100% throw out all aspects of "normal" and "easy" for one impossibly cute scrunchy smile.

Avery St. Downtown LA
The Row Los Angeles

What's Working

  • We take turns making dinner. Every time Matty makes dinner, it's great. But I'm such a control freak in the kitchen and at the grocery store, that I rarely let him cook. So last week, I asked if he wouldn't mind cooking 3 times a week. Not only dd he say yes, he was excited to do it! We sat down and planned out 5 nights of dinners, made a list, and went grocery shopping together. This has given me time to squeeze in another hour of focused work after Avery goes to bed, then spend quality time with Matty once dinner is ready.
  • We hired our first sitter! Sweet Rebekah, who I'm pretty sure sometimes reads ATD (hi!) is Avery's first official baby sitter. She's helping me out 10 hours a week. Four on Monday + Friday, and two on Tuesday. I can start and end my work week with a solid stretch of focused attention, and as for Tuesday...
  • Date nights are back! No more going 3 months between dates. For two sweet hours, we can get away alone! This week, we spent most of it at the Apple store to fix my phone and then grabbed dessert. We don't need fancy, y'all.
The Row Los Angeles
The Row Los Angeles

What's not Working

  • Sleep. We've really never had sleep issues with Avery, but the older he gets and the more I ache for a full 8 hours, the harder it's getting. It's been especially difficult since the first few nights he did SO great and now he's regressed a bit. Some nights are worse then others (hence that hot toddy I made myself yesterday). This all leads to...
  • Sharing a room. Avery wakes up and I'm in his direct line of sight. Even if Matty gets up to calm him down, he sees me. He smells me. HE MUST NURSE. After a particularly rough night, we decided that I'd sleep on the couch last night so I could have some rest. The first time Avery woke up, sometime before midnight, Matty left the room and fell asleep on the living room floor. The second time, around 3:45 am, he brought Avery to me to nurse. Not terrible, but it'd be nice if we could sleep a) together and b) in our bed. Ya know? We're genuinely wondering what it'd be like to move our bed to the living room.
Avery in the park
Sleeping baby

Current Go-To Meals

  • Baked Pasta. A new monthly staple, Matty killed this dish last night! One package of Trader Joe's Italian sausage + 1 bag of gluten-free pasta + 1 jar of pasta sauce + fresh mozzarella. Cook pasta al dente, slice and sauté sausage (add veggies if you want), combine all with pasta sauce in a casserole dish. Cover with slice mozzarella and bake at 350 until cheese is melted to your liking! BONUS: there will be leftovers. 
  • Trader Joe's packaged salads. Lunches have to be quick for me, and as much as I'd love to spend my time washing and chopping veggies...yeah, no. I wouldn't. My two favorite TJ salads are the Southwestern Chopped (I add kale for some darker greens) and the Broccoli + Kale Slaw. Add some protein, like smoked turkey lunchmeat or chicken sausage, and call it a meal. Cheap, quick, yummy, healthy. (I get at least 2 lunches out of each bag!)

What's working/not working for you these days? Have you walked this road before? Share your!